EP5 | 5 Signs You've Officially Had Enough of People's BS

In this episode of the Women Are Not Okay podcast, Crystal discusses the moment when individuals reach their limit with others' nonsense. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing personal boundaries and the signs that indicate one has had enough. The conversation highlights the significance of self-care, prioritizing mental health, and the empowerment that comes from choosing oneself over people-pleasing behaviors.

Keywords: boundaries, self-care, mental health, personal growth, self-awareness, toxic relationships, emotional well-being, self-empowerment, personal limits, women empowerment 

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Welcome to Women Are Not Okay, the self-help podcast where we talk all things mental health, relationships, and mindfulness. Can you admit that you're not okay? Let's be real. Things are shifting. Our bodies, our identities, our mentality, and our relationships. Girl, it's time for us to reclaim our sense of peace, sanity, and well-being. I'm Crystal, and no, I'm not okay. See, that was easy. Let's get into it. Hi, I'm Crystal. Welcome to episode 5 of the Women Are Not Okay podcast. Today we're talking about something near and dear to my soul. The moment you just hit your damn limit. You know, when the filter falls off, the fuse burns out, and suddenly you're allergic to other people's nonsense. We're calling this one five signs you've officially had enough of people's bullshit. Because let's be honest, we've all reached that point where you stop caring about being nice and start caring about being okay. So let's start off with the done era. There comes a time when you are done. Finished, over it, done. I mean officially done. Whether it's with a friend, a family member, a coworker, or that tramp at Marshall's who grabbed the last sand and fog candle you were reaching for. May her house smell like regret. Oh, and let's not forget the person in the 15 items or less line with 23 items and no shame, who suddenly decides now is the perfect time to sign up for rewards. There's a moment in every woman's life, usually around the time your iced coffee turns. There's a moment in every woman's life, usually around the time your coffee turns cold when you realize you're done. You're done with the drama, you're done with the guilt, done with people who treat your boundaries like clearance items. Boundaries aren't about shutting people out, they're about keeping your peace in. You can love people and still decide that they don't get unlimited access to your mental health. Next, the signs. If someone's vibe is off, their texts stay unanswered, and your energy stays intact. Period. We live in a world that glorifies instant replies, but honey, you're not Amazon Prime. Silence doesn't mean disrespect. Sometimes it's self-preservation. Sign number two. You started saying no without a PowerPoint presentation. You used to overexplain every no. Now it's just no. And for those who are really brave, it's oh hell no. One word, two letters, the whole sentence. If people only respect your boundaries when you explain it to them or it suits them, then they don't actually respect them. You're not being rude, you're being clear. Sign number three. You've unfollowed, blocked, or muted without warning. You're not announcing it. You're not writing a breakup paragraph. You're just gone. Because the block button isn't pretty. It's preventative medicine. Curating your feed isn't dramatic. It's detoxing your digital environment. Protecting your mental space is just as important as protecting your physical space. Sign number four. You recognize gaslighting in record time. What used to leave you spiraling for days now barely registers. You can spot manipulation in 0.2 seconds and respond with silence, sass, or strategic distance. Growth looks like recognizing bullshit a little faster and wasting less time debating it. You don't owe anybody a reaction. Girl, sometimes the best response is no response at all. Sign number five. You don't feel bad for choosing yourself. You've been the fixer, you've been the caretaker. You've been the workaholic. You've been the mom. You've been the daughter. The nice one. The it's fine, I'll handle it, girl. But now you're choosing you. And if that makes you cold or difficult or a beatch, so be it. Choosing yourself doesn't make you selfish, it makes you sane. And self-care isn't spotties and bath bombs. It's protecting your mental energy like it's the last coke in the fridge. Segment three. Enough is a damn enough. Here's the thing. Recognizing when you've had enough isn't weakness, it's awareness. It's the moment you realize your peace matters more than your people pleasing. Because let's be honest, we've been conditioned to keep the peace, even when it's costing us our own. We've been trained to smile, stay quiet, smooth things over, and swallow our discomfort so no one else feels it. But that's not peace, that's performance. And I can tell you for a fact that after doing that for almost 40 years, yeah, that shit catches up with you real fast. And at some point, you have to ask yourself, why in the hell am I tolerating this? Why do we bend ourselves into pretzels to make everybody else comfortable when inside we're barely breathing? It's not selflessness, it's self-abandonment with a side of guilt. You don't need anyone's permission to say enough. You don't need to wait for the breakdown or the burnout to reclaim your boundaries. You just need to decide that protecting your peace isn't up for negotiation anymore. So if you're in that era, the I'm tired of my own tolerance era, welcome. You're not cold, you're not traumatic, you're not mean, you're just finally prioritizing yourself. And girl, that's growth. So yeah, this is your official permission slip to stop tolerating what drains you. You can love people and still block them. You can be kind and still say no. And you can protect your peace without apologizing for it. Because here's the truth. The people who benefit from your lack of boundaries will always call you difficult when you start enforcing them. You're not being difficult, you're just done. What was your last personal last straw moment? What was your last personal last straw moment? The one that made you say, Yep, I'm done. Let's talk about the BS we're no longer tolerating. And remember, it's okay not to be okay. Until next time, my friend. Thanks for listening. Just so we're clear, I'm not a licensed medical health professional. I just pay really good ones who help me unpack all this chaos so I can come here and share it with you. Think of this as a pay and forward kind of thing. So until next time, protect your peace, set your boundaries, and remember it's okay to not be okay.